|The Power of Your Belief System|
may be asking, “Come on, Lisa, do my beliefs really have that much
power over my behaviors?” I would respond emphatically, “Yes!”
beliefs are the driving force behind your behaviors. Beliefs send
powerful messages to your brain that affect your actions (and their
outcome) in either a positive or negative way. Your beliefs will cause
you to do one of two things:
fearful and RETREAT or
empowered and ACT
Think of the immigrant who has been raised with the belief that America is the land of opportunity. Even before coming to this country, he has the advantage. Once he arrives in America, he begins a business with the conviction that in America he will be successful because that’s what he has heard and believes. His beliefs are his reality. With time, he manifests that conviction and becomes successful in his business.
how powerful your beliefs are. Success takes two ingredients: belief
and time. The more belief you have, the less time it takes. Your belief
system causes you to either retreat and repel success, or to act and
attract opportunity and success.
belief system was ‘taught” to you by society, peers, family, life
experiences, environment, and many other smaller influences. Just think
back to what your family said repeatedly concerning your circumstances
or your life, and you will find the beginning of many of your beliefs.
The Making Of A Belief System
Parents and Family
the countless times as a child you heard: “You’re gonna fall!”
“You’ll put your eye out.” “Slow
down!” ”I told you
you’d get hurt!” I know parents need to guide their children away
from danger. But, most parents overemphasize safety and demonize
risk-taking by too often inflicting the message of their own fears.
it be great if we parents warned our kids of the danger by saying: “Be
safe.” “You’re safe.” “You’ll be fine.” “Be alert!”
”Notice things.” These statements help build a positive,
empowering belief system about life and our children’s capability to
handle whatever comes their way.
has a huge impact on our belief system.
Look at Titanic, a movie watched by more people than any other
film ever made. Its depiction of wealthy and poor people helped create
dangerous, negative belief systems. Wealthy people were portrayed as
rude, boring, wicked people who would shoot each other to save their own
lives. The picture also reinforced a huge negative belief about love and
commitment, as the main character, Kate, planned to marry for money, not
for love. We witness her mother telling her to toughen up, because that
was what their situation required her to do. Another strong negative
belief the movie put forth was that poor people knew how to have a good
time and poverty was the answer to Kate’s problems.
of wealth are evil, rude, and obnoxious.
people are more loving than rich people.
“spiritual” to be poor
don’t want to be successful again because it hurt so badly the first
participated in the triathlon at the 1976 Olympic games and won a medal.
“Wow!” I thought to myself as I boarded the plane to come home from
the Olympics. “I’m the first woman triathlon champion of the United
States of America.” I guess I thought my friends, family, and
colleagues would react the same way. But, much to my chagrin, I was hit
with something quite different.
you get to meet Mark Spitz?” was the repeated question I heard over
and over. That hurt so much. It hurt enough for me to know that success
isn’t for me.
lonely at the top.
should not be successful (athletes/business
should be seen and not heard.
about you? What family saying, life circumstance, or society influence
has shaped and molded your belief system? We’ve all had a lot of
negative programming, whether we’re conscious of it or not. But, it
matters less where these negative beliefs were taught and more that you are aware of them and learn
how to break through them.
is the beliefs you have about success that creates an incredible—very
real, very evident—fear of success. This kind of fear is the most
powerful form of bondage. This fear-bondage—rooted by negative beliefs
about success and failure—is the one thing that will cause you to
sabotage your success and never achieve what you really want. No amount
of money or time spent on goal-setting classes or positive-thinking
techniques will help you create success until you break through the
negative beliefs that your fear represents.
good news is that you have control over your beliefs. You can change
your belief system, which will help you conquer your fear forever! Read
on to find out how.
Identify Negative Belief Barriers
you ever make any of the following statements?
never enough time.”
are no good men left,”
don’t deserve that.”
work better under pressure.
people are always busy.”
can’t lose weight.”
people are bad parents.”
relationships never work.
great ideas have been shared.”
people are pushy.
not good enough.”
can’t do it this way.
don’t hold those titles.”
it’s not one thing, it’s another”
you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”
should be modest and humble.”
so smart. If only you’d apply yourself”
worth doing is worth doing perfectly”
doesn’t grow on trees.”
negative belief barriers are powerful motivators that will actually
cause you to repel success. You will just push it away like a child
refuses spinach. The problem isn’t just your fear. No, your fear
represents a powerful, self-limiting belief! Until your beliefs are identified
and replaced with empowering beliefs, no amount of positive thinking
will help you create and attain success.
makes negative beliefs so powerful and so insidious is that most of the
time you don’t even realize you have them. You will say you want
something, you’ll write it down, you’ll back it up with positive
thinking, but then something
happens to keep you from the very thing you say you want. You’ll
start misplacing important items. You’ll procrastinate on deadlines.
You’ll forget names. You’ll miss an opportunity... the list goes on
up I always heard my parents say, “If
it’s not one thing, it’s another.”
This seemingly harmless phrase was so imbedded in thought processes that
it was affecting my ability to accomplish tasks—not to mention enjoy
life. I always felt overburdened. Every little thing seemed to overwhelm
me. I always said, “There’s not enough time in the day.” I knew I
had to break through this negative behavior and stop this insanity of
constantly feeling defeated and incapable.
never enough time.
it’s not one thing, it’s another
don’t have what it takes.
Expose Self-sabotaging Behavior
first step to your breakthrough is to listen to what you say and watch
what you do. What comes out of your mouth is very reflective of what you
everyday habits are broadcasting your belief system, your fear, and your
unmet needs loud and clear.
behaviors are broadcasting hidden messages of negative beliefs, fear,
and unmet needs.
I’ll address unmet needs. Psychology explains that behind every
behavior lies a reason. Freud said, “We are insatiable beings and we
always get our needs met.” We will get these needs met in a healthy,
conscious way, or we will get them met in an unhealthy, subconscious
what does all this mean? Human beings have four innate needs.
The degrees to which you need these vary with your personality
and who you are.
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